thought of the day

Thought of The Day{actually is yesterday...}

Think quite a lot for today (so now a bit headahce)... Going to city this afternoon... along the way, i think about this first...:

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#1: Boys can, Gals can't

That day was chatting wif one of my fren, then we brought out this topic:-

TL: why u always show this kind of emotions (those vulgar emotions in msn) one??

PAT: huh!! why i cant??

TL: if u dun put ur display pic ar, cant imagine u r a girl, tot u r a rude guy...

PAT: hey!! u guys ar!!!! y guys can show tat but not gals!!!! really patriarchy idea leh!!!! i hate guys always say gal cannot do somethin tat guys used to do

TL: not cant do la, just don do tat so often...

PAT: then y guys can do tat often but not gals??!!!!

Why guys can simply wooing gals but gals cant? Why guys go to hav sex wheneva they want it's because they hav to, but when gals do tat will be accuse as cheap, shameless or even claim as a whore? Why showing indecent icon is a kind of rude attitude that just guys can do but gals cant?

How pathetic it is! The society has been trying hard to promoting gender equality for the past few decades. As the result, there is nothing changed much. Still, in this world, it is full of images and ideas which are supporting the dominant ideology of masculinity. Look at the advertisement in magazines, females are always represented as highly ideological and as serving to reinforced patriarchy. For an example, females are often depicted as sexual objects for men.

Besides, to be "gentle" and "soft spoken" are the dominant culture norms of feminine appearance. Advertisement provides viewers with images and stereotypes of how to be feminine, and thus succeed at being 'real' female. If you are not gentle enough, you are not considered 'feminine' and are thereby rendered invisible as 'real' female. hmm...yea..!!

Actually, my main point is, showing vulgar emotions in msn is not a gender issue, but manner. Stop saying that it is just boys can show that n gals cannot!!

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#2:Culture difference

For nearly 1 yr in Australia, i had discovered that gals in Western are rather confident than gals in Asian. Why i said so.. It is bcoz those so call 'big size' gals still wearing singlet, tubes, low-waist jeans regardless others judgement. Not like ppl in Asian, those "big size" just wear large size T-shirt to try cover up their bodies.

As I mentioned just now, Asian ppl they think they are not considered as 'feminine', so they choose to be invisible or sign up a diet program so they can be one of the ideal female in the society. That is why MaryFrance developed so rapidly and other slimming companies, as well as slimming products are introduced as there are highly demand in the market.

You can just try an experiment, look at those content in mandarin female magazine such as Sister or Trend that available in Msia or female magazines in Hong Kong, there are lots of advertisements about slimming product and even feature articles about slimming. The whole magazine is just about slimming slimming slimming, bloody slimming!! Now look at western magazines such as Cosmopolitan or Marie Claire, they dont promote much about slimming product, but they do talking about dieting, diet not to slim, but to get a healthy lifestyle. I think mayb is the psycology of 'kis-su' in Asian ppl; they scare they cannot fit into the society if they are fat.

Western gals are so confident of what and how they are. In my opinion, those gals are more pretty than those skinny gals or those who think they hav the best fine body figure in the world.

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#3: Can you be frens wif ur ex??

2 weeks ago, was watching Sex and The City: Ex and The City. Carrie tries to be friends wif Mr.Big after parted. But she loses herself when Big tells about his engagement wif another gal. Will there be a pure friendship between you n ur ex? In the begining I thought we can work it out, and i was trying hard to make it. Many people tell me it is impossible, but i still hav this freakish scenario that it is ok to be just friends.

"Women are for friendships, men are for fucking." -says Samantha

haha...tat's for hilarity! But it's true, you cant ever be friends with ur ex, especially the one who cheated u before. There is a dangerous fine line between friends and lovers. It is easily to step into the relationship again and at the end, there will be person who hurt again. It's time to wake up and leave ex where he belongs - in the past.

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